{"id":244,"date":"2021-05-11T01:13:44","date_gmt":"2021-05-10T23:13:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mentharetreats.com\/?p=244"},"modified":"2021-05-11T01:13:44","modified_gmt":"2021-05-10T23:13:44","slug":"hold-your-own","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentharetreats.com\/nl\/hold-your-own\/","title":{"rendered":"Hold your own"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I just spend a week in retreat working on Co-dependency &#8211; healing our relationships (with our parents).<br>It has become clear to me and I have been able to confirm for myself that our relationship with our parents hold the key to the way we handle all our relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This wonderful poem by Kate Tempest contain all lessons I learned this week.<br>To hold our own, no matter what.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-spotify wp-block-embed-spotify wp-embed-aspect-9-16 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Spotify Embed: Hold Your Own\" style=\"border-radius: 12px\" width=\"100%\" height=\"152\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/track\/67nOd8IqBeaWD2xSg2NuER?si=a769bd2361984b42&#038;utm_source=oembed\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color:#d3effb\">When time pulls lives apart<br>Hold your own<br>When everything is fluid, and when nothing can be known with any certainty<br>Hold your own<br>Hold it &#8217;til you feel it there<br>As dark, and dense, and wet as earth<br>As vast, and bright, and sweet as air<br>When all there is<br>Is knowing that you feel what you are feeling<br>Hold your own<br>Ask your hands to know the things they hold<br>I know the days are reeling past in such squealing blasts<br>But stop for breath and you will know it&#8217;s yours<br>Swaying like an open door when storms are coming<br>Hold<br>Time is an onslaught<br>Love is a mission<br>We work for vocation until<br>In remission<br>We wish we&#8217;d had patience and given more time to our children<br>Feel each decision that you make<br>Make it, hold it<br>Hold your own<br>Hold your lovers<br>Hold their hands<br>Hold their breasts in your hands, like your hands were their bras<br>Hold their face in your palms like a prayer<br>Hold them all night, feel them hold back<br>Don&#8217;t hold back<br>Hold your own<br>Every pain<br>Every grievance<br>Every stab of shame<br>Every day spent with a demon in your brain giving chase<br>Hold it<br>Know the wolves that hunt you<br>In time, they will be the dogs that bring your slippers<br>Love them right and you will feel them kiss you when they come to bite<br>Hot snouts digging out your cuddles with their bloody muzzles<br>Hold<br>Nothing you can buy will ever make you more whole<br>This whole thing thrives on us feeling always incomplete<br>And it is why we will search for happiness in whatever thing it is we crave in the moment<br>And it is why we can never really find it there<br>It is why you will sit there with the lover that you fought for<br>In the car you sweated years to buy<br>Wearing the ring you dreamed of all your life<br>And some part of you will still be unsure that this is what you really want<br>Stop craving<br>Hold your own<br>But if you&#8217;re satisfied with where you&#8217;re at, with who you are<br>You won&#8217;t need to buy new make-up, or new outfits, or new pots and pans<br>To cook new exciting recipes<br>For new exciting people<br>To make yourself feel like the new exciting person, you think you&#8217;re supposed to be<br>Happiness, the brand, is not happiness<br>We are smarter than they think we are<br>They take us all for idiots<br>But that&#8217;s their problem<br>When we behave like idiots<br>It becomes our problem<br>So hold your own<br>Breathe deep on a freezing beach<br>Taste the salt of friendship<br>Notice the movement of a stranger<br>Hold your own<br>And let it be<br>Catching<br><br>Kate Tempest 2019<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I just spend a week in retreat working on Co-dependency &#8211; healing our relationships (with our parents).It has become clear to me and I have been able to confirm for myself that our relationship with our parents hold the key to the way we handle all our relationships. 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